There are a couple of things I have been keeping to myself and is one of the reasons why I was essentially 'off the internet' for a while. I mentioned recently how things haven't really been good but that I was celebrating having my blogging mojo back. Here's why.
In December, I was made redundant. To be honest, I was looking to leave anyway so it was a blessing in disguise really. But then 6 months into a pretty awful year, freelancing on and off and (more often than not) having no money and applying for 300 jobs in total, I have finally found a paddle to get me out of this Shit Creek called 2016.
Today (at the time I originally started writing this...) I started my new job at a awesome company for an awesome brand. It's very early days yet but after such horrid time, I'm pretty happy. I haven't really had time to process it all just yet though. I finished my last Freelance gig the Friday before I started and performed in a concert on the Saturday. I have had so much to occupy my brain that all of this doesn't seem quite real yet.
I'm not the only one who is adamant that 2016 has been the actual worst. While working through it, I've realised some of the most important things to help get you through it.
1. TALK TO PEOPLE
This might sound bloody obvious but at the same time, I have a tendency to lock things away when I'm sad. I don't like being a burden on others but I also needed a shoulder to cry on. I dropped in and out of group chats, wouldn't talk to people for days and even didn't speak to my parents properly for a while. This is silly and makes things worse. Unless you get things out in the open, you might just explode.
2. It's OK to cry
Kinda connected to point numero uno but still valid. You hold things in, you go bang. My breaking point when was when I left a pair of headphones on the tube. I had spent so long holding everything in that I eventually just sapped over the tiniest thing and spent the 40 minute tube journey in silent tears before I had signal to call my boyfriend and sob hysterically. Cry when you need to otherwise your tipping point could be when you've dropped your favourite mug or are out of bubble bath.
3. Don't stop doing what you enjoy
It might seem to be the easiest thing at the time. Cancelling plans or projects just so you can wallow in onesie watching Jeremy Kyle but eventually it takes its toll. Sure, Jeremy Kyle is great and all that and can occasionally make you feel better... but at the same time, you need your hobbies and friends to keep your brain occupied. I stopped writing and cancelled on friends left right and centre. It took a while for me to realise that this was making me even unhappier especially when I had to make a point of going to the local coffee shop JUST so I could have some variety of interaction with a human.
4. Get out
Make little plans during the day that are easy. Even if it's:
- 1:00 - Go and get coffee
- 4:00 - Go to the shop to get food for dinner
- 6:00 - Go and meet (X) from the station
You need to clear those cobwebs.
5. Enjoy the silly things
Watch bad movies, listen to Disney Soundtracks, read that book you love for the 10,000th time... Whatever makes you smile, bloody well do it.
6. Remember, it's going to be OK
Cliche and all that but it will be. It may take time. But these 5 little things do help you along the way. I promise.